Having had many conversations with fathers and extended family members helping them understand that these conflicting feelings are a normal part of the healing process, I have noticed a change in their demeanor, and it has created a more supportive partnership and family environment going forward. This change in environment helps to relieve stress not only on the mother but on the partner and other family members as well.
By reducing the feelings of anxiety, pressure, and sometimes even isolation, the overall healing process for the mother can begin. Better breastmilk production, nursing success and an overall calmness aid in resolving the baby-blues.
A trained postpartum doula will be able to recognize if the baby-blues are taking too long to overcome and observe the mother closely to see if she is able to shed the sadness quickly. It is different for every woman but if the blues are not going away a recommendation to seek professional help is given.
New mothers need a lot of “mothering” themselves! Many mothers discover that when they come home from the delivery, they become critical of themselves and their image, leading to unrealistic expectations of when their body will or needs to be back in shape. Starting a diet too soon and thoughts of being viewed as unattractive can often lead to further isolation.
By providing nurturing care such as demonstrating proper food preparation, light massages, wound care, and all-around comfort we help keep mom’s expectations in check, improve her body-image, and give mothers the space to recover by enhancing the healing process. Providing the mother with much needed time to sleep and to shower along with a healthy dose of self-care cannot be underestimated when your body is still aching from a lengthy delivery and when post-delivery pains are still present.
Becoming a new parent can be a bit overwhelming at first and given the right support it will greatly improve your experience and reduce the stress level. Accepting the new reality that your baby needs to eat every 2.5-3 hours around the clock doesn’t always settle in quickly for a breastfeeding mother. Around the clock support will ease this transition and help prevent sleep deprivation which in turn can worsen the baby-blues.
As a Certified Postpartum Doula (CPPD) and Certified Infant Feeding Specialist (CIFS) I focus on educating parents and family members on:
- Infant feeding practices (nursing positions and latching support)
- Infant soothing techniques
- How to hold your newborn
- Proper diapering
- Hygiene procedures
- Nose suction safety and devices
- Swaddling techniques
- Best burping techniques
- Recommended sleeping positions for you and your newborn
- The mechanics of breast pumps
- Monitoring tools and devices
and much more.
Most importantly I help instill in you the confidence and the “YES YOU CAN” attitude along with coping skills, education and increase confidence in your new role as a parent. Choosing the right personal care products for mother and baby, such as nursing pads and nipple balm.
As Postpartum Doulas we are also a companion, listening to the mother, providing additional options and resources. Because of our training we can identify a deviation from a normal postpartum recovery, the baby’s appearance, behavior, and breastfeeding issues which can lead to referrals to the pediatrician and or the primary care provider.
Additionally, during postpartum care, Postpartum Doulas may also help the family with:
- Infant and mother advocacy
- Partner/father support
- Support mother/father with infant
- Support mother/father with sibling(s)
- Providing basic nutrition and meal examples
- Household organization
Now that many women are having babies away from their families, many are finding themselves in uncharted waters as the traditional family support is often no longer able to come visit due to travel restrictions from Covid19 or for other personal reasons. If you are from a foreign country or are in a new place with no family or friends near, and in addition struggle with a language barrier, choosing the support of a bi-lingual Postpartum Doula may be the right choice for you.
For more information on Postpartum Doula Care please visit:
Doula2Talk – Postpartum care talk
Felicia Winograd | Doula Training and Certification (prodoula.com)